Life Coaching by Carioca Da Gema
Who is Carioca Da Gema? My name is Joelcy Kay. I’m the editor and curator of Edge of Humanity Magazine. ‘Carioca Da Gema’ is my pen name and I have recently launched ‘Edge of Humanity Magazine’s Life Coaching Series’ which is a collection of articles written by myself, covering…
Read articleDaily Escapes | Time Games
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema During your day, there is a time when your body says, “I need a break”. You may feel anxious, tired, or blank out for a moment, but you know it is time for your second wind to kick in or you are…
Read articleThe Grocery Shop Dance
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema The kitchen is the heart and soul of a house, as most of the activities happen here. Where there are people there must be food, and the cycle goes on, from a full fridge, to finding frozen items in the freezer…
Read articleCOVID-19 | Coronavirus’ Days | With Time To Spare, Are Americans Sleeping More?
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Americans are sleeping less under quarantine even though they now have the time to enjoy more zzz’s. The anxiety over been trapped at home and the speculations surrounding the Coronavirus Pandemic is the main reason 48% of Americans are reporting problems falling…
Read articleCOVID-19 | Coronavirus’ Days | Too Much Time On Your Hands? How About Facing Your Messy Garage?
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Peace in the castle during quarantine depends on the activities one or many can master. Whether you are home with your mate or with a family of eight, keeping the mood from going sour is paramount. “What are we going to…
Read articleCOVID-19 | Coronavirus’ Days | Organize How You Eat & Stretch The Time Between Grocery Store Trips
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Many of us got use to have our groceries delivered to our door, while others hire a personal shopper or use curbside pick up available at the nearest Wal-Mart store. These conveniences are being interrupted by the Coronavirus Pandemic. I found…
Read articleCOVID-19 | Coronavirus’ Days | Ways To Reduce Boredom and Chaos At Home
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Is home resembling a coocoo’s den? Keeping busy is the key to mentally surviving this Coronavirus’ Pandemic. The order we had tried so hard to keep in our lives is turning into anarchy. But instead of struggling to keep the course,…
Read articleCOVID-19 | Coronavirus’ Days | I Hate My Mate
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema A couple we knew years ago was able to synchronize their two weeks’ vacation. “I’m dreading spending all this time with my husband, we never took more than a weekend together during our entire marriage”. Nina said. The time off went…
Read articleCOVID-19 | Coronavirus’ Days | Splitting The Load In The Household
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Last week you were the parent working from home that most of the time was able with the help of pre-washed, pre-packaged, and pre-cooked wonders have dinner on the table by the end of the day. With a tap of a…
Read articleCOVID-19 | Coronavirus’ Days | Destructive Behavior
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema It is common to reward or numb ourselves with a cigarette, alcohol, and drugs of many kinds. Activities such as gambling, online porn, and sex escapades are also a normal thing to do when one feels happiness or despair. In normal…
Read articleCOVID-19 | Coronavirus’ Days | Trapped
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Our living spaces and personalities will shape the harshness of our quarantines. Confinement in a household with a yard is tolerable, while being trapped with others in a one window studio not so much. Outdoorsy individuals will develop moments of claustrophobia…
Read articleCOVID-19 | Coronavirus’ Days | The Confusion
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Under the understanding that natural disasters and harsh weather will do us in ‘à la carte’; humans are now faced with the new challenge of (collective) isolation. Rapid radical changes, even though temporary, come with tremendous confusion and anxiety. Being asked…
Read articleDaily Escapes | Time Games
The Life Coaching Series Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema During your day, there is a time when your body says, “I need a break”. You may feel anxious, tired, or blank out for a moment, but you know it is time for your second wind to…
Read articleThe Grocery Shop Dance
The Life Coaching Series Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema The kitchen is the heart and soul of a house, as most of the activities happen here. Where there are people there must be food, and the cycle goes on, from a full fridge, to finding frozen…
Read articleCookbook Review | Food Markets Of The World By Nelli Sheffer & Mimi Sheraton
This book was hand-picked for review, from The Hermit Poet’s International Cookbook Collection. Written by: Carioca Da Gema “Tomate senhora, tomate!” Growing up, I frequently helped my grandmother when going to the street fresh market. In Brazil, ‘feiras’ moved around the city, offering the residents everything…
Read articleThoughts
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Like liquid on flat surface They run Deep diving into the crater of my memories Moving around searching for murkiness To fester Copyright© Edge of Humanity LLC 2021 If my writing helped or entertained you in any way, please…
Read articleTreat Me Nice
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Can we be nice to everyone across the board? Or As we waltz around managing our lives’ necessities should we master quick behavior changes in order not to be a target? Copyright© Edge of Humanity LLC 2021 If my…
Read articleWhose Mistake & How Do We Fix it?
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema A wrong chain of actions will result in a mistake that the maker and sometimes others can see clearly. At this point, most of the times more actions will be needed to ratify or accommodate. Men and women perceive these needed…
Read articleFinding The Balance Of Happiness
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Is happiness for everyone? I’m not referring to the right to pursue happiness, but the understanding of what happiness is and what it takes to be happy. Our happiness’ goals change as we develop. Daily environment and social interactions shape our…
Read articleThe Sleep Conundrum | Time Games
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Seven (hours) is the magical number when it comes to sleep. Growing up or reaching the golden years we need even more. But the reality is that 35% of Americans do not sleep enough every night. This deficiency can trigger a…
Read articleHow To Choose Between Practicality & Style
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Practicality is like WD-40, it keeps life running. But this attitude toward abolishing non-sense sometimes meets other forces such as popularity, style, and fashion. “These shoes are killing me” “I need an island in my kitchen because I entertain a…
Read articleClearing The Docket At 50
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Life goes through a tremendous spin in our first five decades. At fifty without thinking that our life is over we start prioritizing our time. Let’s face it the time is really ticking now, and watching commercials between our favorite shows…
Read articleLearning & Experiencing
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Most aspects of our lives can and will continue to be learned from a book or other forms of transferring information available via the written word. Is that enough to have understanding over what we learned? Knowledge is necessary, but in…
Read articleGo With Your Gut
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Should I really? Our gut; the inner voice with its own notes playing with the balance of choices one is about to make it. Can your hopes, anxieties, likes, and dislikes influence the “my gut tells me” decisions? It comes down…
Read articleDon’t Have A Fit, Unless You Can Fake It
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema When in confrontation Steady mind rules Self-control yields positive moves and victory Exhausted the hot temperate opponent Can’t see battle is lost But if you can mock a tantrum Roll in the mud of unpleasantries with your rival That will sharpen…
Read articleYou Owe Me An Apology!
Written by: Carioca Da Gema We Americans love an apology. If it is owed to us we will ask for it, we will demand, and we will pursue until we get it. The lack of succeeding in receiving one will make some of us lose sleep and tell others…
Read articleHandling Life’s Complications
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema The problems we have in life shape the person we became. People with a small amount of issues tend to be easy going and happier as they never had to deal with adversity and hardship. The folks that struggle frequently tend…
Read articleBundled Minds
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Is acting according with one’s beliefs a realistic expectation when living in an open society? Are like minded groups created with the intent of sheltering the members from discovering alternative ideas? Are these safe places a front for Indoctrination? Copyright©…
Read articleKarma & Positioning
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema As we go through life collecting experiences that will build us as individuals are our good and bad actions creating our karma, or is our (good or bad) karma outside of our reach? Do good is good for the soul; it…
Read articleStrategies During A Dispute
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Your best tool in a conflict is time. In order to create doubt, a wordy opponent will play irrelevant cards. It’s important to focus on your goal; but vital not to be blinded by it. Many people cannot see anything but…
Read articlePeace
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema In silence The self is quiet The body rests The mind sails No doubts No expectations Yesterday senseless Tomorrow whatever Serenity Now Copyright© Edge of Humanity LLC 2021 If my writing helped or entertained you in any way, please…
Read articleEnthusiasm
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema A few have it Even fewer enjoy watching it Palatable for the ones you see occasionally Tolerated for the folks you see all the time Cannot be taught Cannot be bought Cannot be mastered At the age of 10 you are…
Read articlePhilosophical Rambling | Punishment & Mind
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema For sake of this argument let’s agree that the facts on both stories below are indisputable truths. Story#1 A drunk driver killed a young woman. Days before the trial the driver got shot while interrupting a playground shooting and saved…
Read articleAfter The Storm
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema She returned home Complete destruction Rubble everywhere Neighbors gone Under torn pieces of a curtain The piano stands Proud and calling for her On a broken chair she sat And Played HARD Remembering The room where her family gathered…
Read articleUp With The First Light
The Life Coaching Series Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema I cannot enjoy my warm bed in this freezing early morning Mind takes me to Paths I missed Riddles I’m not able to solve Mountains I lack strength to climb Shivering I start my day Distractions Crossing…
Read articleDiscovering My Own Way
The Life Coaching Series Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema The dinner table is the home’s theater. The place where we show our love, start many fights, tell many lies, and toss bombshells. At the dinner table we nourish ourselves with good meals and have good…
Read articleSuperficiality, Ignorance & Personal Growth
The Life Coaching Series Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema I felt like an idiot a couple decades ago; I was attending a birthday party and in a conversation about wine, which at that time I knew absolutely nothing about. Without understanding the depth of my self…
Read articleThe Knowledge Play On Fear & Anger
The Life Coaching Series Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Anger is a result of ongoing fear. We fear what we do not know, the unpredictable aspects of our lives, and the events we cannot control. Knowledge provides truth in which we can understand the dynamics of…
Read articleFocus X Flexibility
The Life Coaching Series Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Most of the technological developments aim to make our lives easier, or even longer; while decimating jobs and careers. Focus and be an expert. Is that a good idea? Who would of think decades ago that accountants…
Read articleCitizens & Customers | Navigating Small Crisis
The Life Coaching Series Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema I had my share fighting city hall, and yes, one can fight city hall and it’s an easy win as long as you have time between now and the event you are trying to alter. I do…
Read articleOur Gut, Our Inner Eye
The Life Coaching Series Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Our gut is most powerful natural weapon we have and so many times we take it for granted, or are too tired to follow its clear instructions. As we get older, we gather our values, and assets…
Read articleBattles | Engage Or Avoid
The Life Coaching Series Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Every encounter in our lives (especially the unpleasant ones) adds knowledge to self. You can dress a tout in a three piece suit, but you can’t scrap-off the mannerisms. If you ever got annoyed by one you…
Read articleWaving In & Out Of Facts & Fiction
Written by: Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Food, shelter and our bills paid. These are the hard facts of everyone’s life. The base on which other aspects of our existence will build on. Many living in “Sugar Land” are optimistic, they hope for the best without making any real…
Read articleWhat Are You Made Of?
The Life Coaching Series Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Adversity builds personality. Some of us are strong minded, others cannot sell their way out of a paper bag. Many of us look good and ready on the outside (reality unknown) while a few are happy to…
Read articleSilence Tactics
The Life Coaching Series Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Have you ever met someone that speaks so slow it seem like they are having a meal between syllables? It can be irritating at times, but the possible real dangers can be found in the quiet ones,…
Read articleI Do Not Like Changes
The Life Coaching Series Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema In past generations, the changes occurring in our daily lives had a structural component. Bridges and buildings need to be built in order to bring progress. Laws needed to be passed to bring social changes, and the…
Read articleBuilding Blocks | Developing An Individual | Life’s Gray
The Life Coaching Series Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Our values allow us to distinguish right from wrong. But as we grow older, and pass the obey our parents phase, right and wrong grow long legs, and simple decisions turn complex as we experience situations where…
Read articleThe Divider & The Monotone | America’s Poor Choice For 2020 Elections
Written by: Life Coach Carioca Da Gema One must participate in order to later criticize. For this reason alone I believe everyone should vote. It’s a power given to each one of us and should not in any circumstances be ignored. We still have an economic shutdown and…
Read articleHow Much Is Your Word Worth?
The Life Coaching Series Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Political correctness running American society today resembles a train without brakes; we keep dividing ourselves into smaller groups and claiming that this or that statement is offensive. With the knowledge that recording devices are everywhere, the regular…
Read articleThe Split
Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema They were quiet for years No children Barbeque on Sundays She shopped for antiques He talked on an old radio Gingerbread home Last night In the dark Nervous loud words I could not understand Boxes being tossed in car Things falling…
Read articleTangibles & Intangibles | The Intricacy Of Marriage | Part #2
The Life Coaching Series Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Every marriage is unique, as the function of the institution is to bring together two different minds. Marriage is composed of a multitude of factors, unrelated with the actions of being married. People convert to other another…
Read articleReturning To Self After A Loss
my existence broken glass that does not fit numb floating to uncharted lands looking for solace * Comments from Life Coaching by Carioca Da Gema During a life changing event, it is important not to hold on to your emotions as each burst peels a layer that…
Read articleThe Power Within
mind plots body executes seasonal harvest life’s tally * Comments from Life Coaching by Carioca Da Gema The mind gives us power that can be tuned at will. Continuous negativity expressing destructive, combative, and preemptive behavior is like stepping on feces; while positive, productive, and organized thoughts,…
Read articleThe Mechanics Of Despair
Catastrophe barges in Suffering Quickly muzzled by Survival Man’s rescue mode Copyright© Edge of Humanity LLC 2020 H I R E A L I F E C O A C H Life Coaching by Carioca Da Gema Edge of Humanity Magazine is an independent nondiscriminatory…
Read articleHomosexuality | The Bibles’ Conflict Of Interest
Written by: LIFE COACH Carioca Da Gema Having bad judgment of character will diminish the respect people have for you in your social circle and make you a risk for the ones you do business with. Is not unusual, to find on page 11 of a Google search…
Read articleThe Wealthy | Society’s Waste Of Opportunity
Written by: LIFE COACH Carioca Da Gema Flaunting is part of human nature. People today can publicly share with the world their exotic vacations, the purchase of a brand new car, or being offered that great job in detail with images, text, and chats The rich of the…
Read articleSociety, Government & The Health Care System In The US
Written by: Life Coach Carioca Da Gema In its infancy, societies are created by collective ideals and wants. Since the caveman, we have done better in groups as we can help each other to solve our daily problems and carry the heavy loads. As the group evolves, the…
Read articleMenstrual Cycles | I Do Not Want Them!
Written by: Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Teenage girls maybe taking pharmaceuticals in the effort to minimize the experience of having their periods. “…in one study, approximately 70 percent of adolescents between the ages of 15 and 19 indicated that they would prefer to have their periods less…
Read articleFamily | The Good & The Bad
Written by: Life Coach Carioca Da Gema The Family We Are Born Into Family can be beneficial or disastrous for one’s well being. Without taking away a person’s accomplishments being connected can make the rise to the top easier. One will not be less successful because he or…
Read articleFamily | Our Public & Private Lives
Written by: Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Public exposure can make a small problem into a catastrophic one. The reality of our family life lives within the walls of our castle. However, the assumptions of the ones outside of our fortress, even though unrealistic, can cause irreparable harm.…
Read articleFamily | More Members, More Problems
Written by: Life Coach Carioca Da Gema There are many families known by their tribulations. But are their struggles any different than the ones taking place in your family or mine? How many members does the “X” family have? Every person comes into a group, whether it…
Read articleFear | Lacking By The Youngsters & Considered By The Elders
Written by: Life Coach Carioca Da Gema The neighborhood daredevils gather at the end of the cul-de-sac every evening. Lacking any fear or concern for self harm, these kids do stunts with their bikes and skateboards. Without a second thought some instinctively get up and carry on after…
Read articleGet Angry!
The Life Coaching Series Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema We are told to control ourselves and suppress our anger, but too many of these maneuvers can make us physically and mentally sick, bitter, and unpleasant to ourselves and others. The secret with anger is not to…
Read article“You Don’t Know Me!” | The Knowledge We Think We Have
The Life Coaching Series Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema There are people in our lives that we claim to know, some since childhood, from a long time employment and our relatives among others. The self adapts with exposure. My meat lover friend vowed to never eat…
Read articleReality | Where Do I Find It?
The Life Coaching Series Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Is the reality in our thoughts truer than the ones existing out of our minds? Or is it the other way around? H I R E A L I F E C O A…
Read articleInterrupted
Written by: Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Power OFF before supper Out of the window Quiet Dark Small lantern to help me Focusing on dough Kneading bread for dinner Ever so slowly Mind is clear Laboring primitive motion World around gone The damn light then comes back on…
Read articleRelics From Fought Battles
The Life Coaching Series Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema The most important lesson one can learn from battling is to avoid it at any cost. Battles are intellectually and physically exhausting, and can many times cost you a lot of money. Nevertheless, they are inevitable, as…
Read articleNationalism | A Glossy Word For Ethnic Cleansing
Written by: Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Myanmar is for Buddhists! India is for Hindus! Make America great again! Global warming warnings and wackos concocting artificial intelligence resembling the big bad wolf, are common concerns regarding where we are going as occupants of Earth. Global warming will…
Read articleThe Pace Of Our Lives
The Life Coaching Series Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema “Mr. President, you have a meeting in 6 minutes.” Is every minute of your day accounted for to maximize productivity and assure all gets done? Without organization chances are that important things will fall thru the cracks…
Read articleHow Societies (Past & Present) Evoke Mental Illness To Obtain Control
Written by: Life Coach Carioca Da Gema In the race to control its citizens, past societies used the same strategies applied by individuals with abusive tendencies today. ‘Madness’ was used by authorities in the 1800’s to sway society into normality. The undesirables of that time, the poor, the…
Read articleAre Humans Reasonable?
Written by: Life Coach Carioca Da Gema ‘Reason’ separates the human race from all other species and yet our lives are flooded with components we cannot reason or even prove that exist. Validating the existence of God is probably the largest failure in the history of civilized man.…
Read articleThe Role Of Individualism In Government Control
Written by: Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Primitive societies were constructed by people with the same value system and mostly ruled by religious beliefs. Collective thinking has been diluted by individualism in modern society. Unshackled from institutionalized ideology and state control, citizens can exercise originality in their actions…
Read articleFreedom | A Summit Too Hard To Reach
Written by: Life Coach Carioca Da Gema The relationship between man and land is very simple. Man will work the land and land will provide for man. Along with that comes self-sufficiency, which can also relate with freedom. To be free one must detach itself from everything in…
Read articleExploiting Memories Of Hard Times
The Life Coaching Series Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema “He comes from nothing” We all have heard this phrase multiple times and it is usually accompanied by the person’s achievements. The same humble beginnings can have contrasting results in people’s lives. Some strive to succeed at…
Read articleIs The Grouping In American Society Bringing Us Further Apart?
Written by: Life Coach Carioca Da Gema Americans are socially lost in a web of identification. Often people are labeled and consequently split into groups, while points of view are categorized as pro or against. One must tiptoe around political correctness and social acceptance to make a point.…
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