Written by Life Coach Carioca Da Gema


“I raced out off the birth canal ahead of my twin sister and she has been running two minutes behind ever since.”

Whether we welcome it or not, competition is part of our lives. As we get older, or as more crumbs accumulate on the prize table, the pressure to be the best increases.

During the early years, some parents choose not to count scores and allow their children to enjoy games for what it is; a way to keep kids occupied in a healthy way.

The game is on as we abandon our temper tantrums and discover our personal tastes, likes, dislikes, and can argue our way out of veggies we do not want to see on our plates.

We will rate our parent’s love by the gifts we receive, and compare the aspects of our lives with that of our siblings.  During our school years, the clothing we wear or how popular we are will gauge our worth in the eyes of many. While young and single we compete for love. Competition is fierce during our working years.

If allowed in your life, peer pressure, like bad weather, will ravage thru your existence. The flow of life brings us constantly in and out of what we perceive as being the direction we are taking. The constant measuring imposed by peer pressure is unrealistic and yields frustration.

Competition is necessary for human condition and for many keeps the enthusiasm afloat, and for others aides as a necessary kick in the ass so life moves forward. But in excess, can competition be a bad thing?

Society today accepts a form of competition that’s aggressive in nature, destructive in its execution, and provides empty summits, as the people engaging never appear to get enough.

TV shows teach us how to destroy civility in the work place and compete with our mates. Winner takes all approach is widespread and accepted in many aspects of our lives.


“I’m happy just to be nominated”



No, we want to win.

A good competition will teach you the process of gathering the best you can offer for that specific event. The same procedure can also be used to help you harvest and present your personal assets, which can be used in many situations throughout your life.




This article is part of the Rewind Series 



“I will not make you dependent on me.  My approach is to find alternative options under a circumstance and open new doors into a resolution of old problems. Clear the docket so you can see things from other angles as you absorb other possibilities. In time, after you had conquered your needs, you will be able to replace what does not work, accept what you cannot change, and accomplish what you want.”

Life Coach Carioca Da Gema


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